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Plain-language guides for identity, privacy, meeting people, consent, sexual health, online threats, reporting, and getting help — public, ad-free, and built to be used quickly.
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Identity, home & school
Labels, family privacy, being outed, school problems, and staying safe while you figure yourself out.
Identity & Coming Out Resources
Practical identity, coming-out, family-privacy, and private-healthcare guidance for LGBTQIA+ and questioning people.
Use this if… you’re questioning, protecting your privacy, or deciding whether to come out.
Open guide → School & privacyI Need Help at School Without Being Outed
Practical steps for LGBTQ+ students dealing with bullying, harassment, accidental outing, or needing school help without disclosing more than necessary.
Use this if… you need school help without automatically being outed at home.
Open guide → IdentityDo I Need a Label Yet?
A practical identity guide for people who are unsure whether they are gay, bi, trans, nonbinary, a femboy, or simply experimenting.
Use this if… you do not know whether gay, bi, trans, nonbinary, femboy, or no label fits.
Open guide → Family & privacyMy Parents Found My Clothes. What Do I Say Right Now?
Practical scripts and safety steps for when family discovers feminine clothing before you are ready to explain your identity.
Use this if… family found feminine clothes or other private items before you were ready.
Open guide → Outing riskSomeone Might Out Me
A practical outing-risk plan for when someone threatens to reveal your sexuality, gender identity, dating life, clothing, or private information.
Use this if… someone is threatening to tell family, school, work, or friends something private.
Open guide → Home privacyMy Parents Search My Phone, Room, or Packages
A practical privacy guide for people living with family who search phones, rooms, packages, laundry, or accounts, with emphasis on reducing exposure rather than relying on …
Use this if… family searches your phone, room, packages, laundry, or accounts.
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Style, clothes & body
Sizing, feminine presentation, body hair, shaving, and getting the look you want without treating your body like a defect.
Your First Feminine Outfit: Start Smaller Than You Think
A practical guide to experimenting with feminine presentation gradually, privately, subtly, or openly without turning the first outfit into a declaration.
Use this if… you want to try looking more feminine without changing everything at once.
Open guide → Clothes & fitWomen's Clothing Sizes Are Chaos. Measure Yourself Instead.
A practical guide to buying feminine clothing that fits: measurements, size charts, tall and broad-body fit, and avoiding wasted purchases.
Use this if… women’s sizing makes no sense or you keep buying the wrong size.
Open guide → Skin & groomingRazor Bumps & Ingrown Hairs: What to Change First
A practical shaving troubleshooter for razor burn, bumps, ingrown hairs, cuts, and deciding when a less-close shave is the better answer.
Use this if… shaving leaves you red, itchy, bumpy, or full of ingrowns.
Open guide → Body hairShave vs. Trim vs. Cream vs. Wax vs. Laser
A practical body-hair removal method chooser comparing trimming, shaving, depilatory creams, waxing or epilating, and laser by smoothness, irritation, cost, maintenance, and …
Use this if… you need to choose between shaving, trimming, cream, waxing, or laser.
Open guide → Body image & expressionToo Tall, Hairy, Broad, or Masculine to Be a Femboy?
A practical body-image guide for people who want feminine presentation but do not match the small, smooth, thin internet femboy stereotype.
Use this if… you want feminine presentation but do not match the small, smooth internet stereotype.
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Dating, consent & relationships
Crushes, boundaries, open relationships, broken agreements, and words you can say to another person.
Consent and Boundaries
Plain-language consent and boundary guidance with short scripts for slowing down, stopping, changing your mind, and leaving.
Use this if… you want words for a boundary, changed your mind, or somebody is pushing past a no.
Open guide → RelationshipsBefore You Open the Relationship
Questions to answer before opening a relationship, including consent, rules, safer sex, jealousy, broken agreements, and what happens if one partner wants to stop.
Use this if… you are considering non-monogamy and need to know what to agree on first.
Open guide → Dating & crushesI Have a Crush on a Guy. Now What?
A practical guide to same-sex crushes, asking someone out, first dates with men, rejection, and not turning one crush into an identity emergency.
Use this if… you like a guy, are asking someone out, or this is your first same-sex date.
Open guide → Boundary scriptsBoundaries Without Making It Weird
Short, normal-sounding boundary scripts for slowing down, condoms, photos, extra people, kink mismatch, changing your mind, and leaving.
Use this if… you know the boundary but cannot find normal words for it.
Open guide → Trust & agreementsMy Partner Broke the Rules We Agreed On
A practical relationship guide for broken agreements in monogamous or open relationships: separating the act from the lying, immediate sexual-health questions, and deciding …
Use this if… your partner broke a monogamy or open-relationship agreement.
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Sex & sexual health
First times, bottoming, pain, STI testing, PrEP, PEP, private care, and what to do after something happens.
Sexual Health, Consent & Relationship Safety
Plain-language guidance about labels, attraction, consent, sexual health, pressure, boundaries, and finding people who treat you well.
Use this if… you’re meeting someone new, have a sexual-health question, or need a first-meeting safety plan.
Open guide → Private healthcareI Need to Talk to My Doctor Without My Parent in the Room
Practical ways to ask for private time with a clinician, reduce the chance that the request itself outs you, and check portals, insurance, pharmacy, and other privacy …
Use this if… you need private clinician time without turning it into a family disclosure.
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Meetups, online safety & parties
Leaving, getting picked up, image threats, hookup safety, festival harm reduction, and keeping an exit.
Online Safety Basics
Practical online and meetup safety: privacy, photos, accounts, check-ins, exit plans, threats, evidence, and reporting options.
Use this if… you’re using apps, sharing photos, meeting someone new, or dealing with an online threat.
Open guide → Parties & harm reductionYour Friend Is Not Okay at the Festival
A practical festival and party harm-reduction guide for when a friend is missing, too impaired, needs medical help, or cannot safely get home.
Use this if… your friend is missing, severely impaired, or may need medical help.
Open guide → Meetup safetyThe Plan Changed. Leave.
A practical meetup-safety guide for when the person, location, people involved, substances, or plan are different from what you agreed to.
Use this if… the person, place, people, or plan changed after you arrived.
Open guide → Exit planI Need a Ride Home and I Don’t Want to Explain Why
Short scripts for asking a parent, friend, sibling, roommate, or other trusted person to come get you without explaining your sexuality, date, hookup, or exact situation …
Use this if… you need someone to get you home without explaining the whole situation first.
Open guide → Harm reductionIf You’re Going to Take It Anyway
A practical harm-reduction checklist for people who have already decided they may use drugs at a party or festival: preplanning, not using alone, avoiding mystery substances, …
Use this if… you have already decided you may use drugs and need a plan that is not abstinence-only.
Open guide → Image abuseSomeone Has My Nudes
A practical sextortion and intimate-image abuse guide: what to save, when to stop paying or sending more, account security, takedown tools, and planning for possible outing.
Use this if… someone has an intimate image and is threatening, blackmailing, or outing you.
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Help, reporting & crisis support
Documenting what happened, choosing whether to report, and finding somebody to talk to when you need support now.
Crisis Support Contacts
Immediate support contacts: 988 Lifeline, Crisis Text Line, The Hotline, and Trans Lifeline, with how to use them.
Use this if… you need somebody to talk to now or you are helping a friend through a bad night.
Open guide → Start here ReportingReporting and Support
Practical options for documenting online harm, reporting abuse, and finding support without rushing a decision.
Use this if… something already happened and you want help documenting it, reporting it, or deciding what to do.
Open guide →How these guides work
Safer option first. Realistic plan second.
We give the lower-risk option plainly, then the practical plan for what happens if real life is messier than that. Scripts should sound like something a person would say. High-stakes medical, legal, crisis, and service details get checked against current sources.